Dealing with Naysayers

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 You can find them everywhere they are coworkers friends and even family members. They are negative and shoot down your ideas. You’re quick to point out a problem, but rarely a solution. They seem joyful when things won’t work out. They are naysayers! Here’s how to deal with them.

Use their doubt as motivation. Make a wager with yourself and promise yourself that you will prove them wrong do not let the uncertainty of others keep you from pursuing your dreams. But they think really doesn’t matter. You have control over your destiny!

Set your boundaries. If they hurt your feelings or your actions they are too close. Boundaries help you set a healthy distance. Let me your time with them. Don’t spend lunches or breaks with them. Be polite yet firm with your limits. You don’t need them to become your supporter, and they probably won’t be, but don’t allow them to discourage you. Discouragement reached out and doubt could be limiting!

Embrace solitude and reflection. While you are hustling to achieve your goals, be sure to give yourself some downtime to reflect on your path, your strengths, and your progress. Take pride in how far you have come, and if needed, reevaluate your plan of action. This quiet time will revitalize you and allow you to develop new ideas and more motivation.

“Keep it private until it’s permanent.” Although commonly used regarding romantic relationships, the saying applies to sharing with naysayers. Don’t discuss your plans with people who aren’t supportive. Your success will speak for itself once you reach your goals. If they bring it up, change the topic.

You don’t owe people explanations. You don’t have to justify yourself your goals, or the path you are taking. Everyone is different, no two people live identical lives nor achieve their goals in the same way. If someone questions you simply say, “I can see how that works for you and I need to do what works for me.”

Surround yourself with positive supporters. There are people that believe in you and will help you to achieve your goals seek counsel with people who seek to build you up. When times are tough, look for cheerleaders who reassure you and urge you to keep going and growing.

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